How’s wedding planning going? Hopefully you’re enjoying the process and have got a few things under your belt such as an idea on a venue and maybe even a dress inspiration or two. You might be at the point where you’re ready to start considering a few people to stand beside you and your fiance on your wedding day. This can be a really difficult choice for some, especially if you’re close to a lot of special people who are in your life regularly.
My suggestion is this, when it comes to choosing your bridal party consider some personal reflection before you choose. Take some time with your fiance or even on your own and think out the choice before you start asking anyone. I say this because it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget that many factors can come in to play now and going forward towards the wedding. Reflecting on my own experience, I chose family as my bridal party and for me that was the perfect choice. I had my big sister as my maid of honor, which for me was an easy choice for me due to our strong relationship and I also included my two (now) sister in-laws as well as my 4 nieces and nephews. Now too many, that may seem like a big bridal party. but I can’t stress enough how it was a personal choice that I knew would work for me and my fiance. It also gave me a chance to strengthen each one of those relationships as the wedding planning went on.
When you decide on who you might like to have in your bridal party, write it down and wait. Wait a few weeks, wait a month but all I ask is you wait. This will give you some time to discuss with your fiance and will give you some time to see how your relationships are before you ask. Things can change in a matter of an instant and this will give you time to explore who will work best and help you make a final choice. This is great practice for both you and fiance as you’ll want to find group of people who gel together well and that you have a strong relationship with. Also, one last thing to consider before choosing: Why are you choosing the person you have in mind? Is it because you made a deal in kindergarten that you would be in each other’s wedding’s? Things have most likely changed since then and you want to make sure you aren’t choosing out of obligation. Choose people who you see in your life going forward, who will stand beside you and support your marriage.
Once you’ve decided on who you want to ask to be in your bridal party, keep in mind that not everyone will agree with your choices. But don’t let that discourage you as you need to make the best choice for you. You also need to remember that by asking a friend or family member to stand beside you, it doesn’t mean it will be an automatic yes. If the person you have chosen declines, make sure not to take it personally and don’t push the envelope as it could be for a variety of reasons such as money, time or even social anxiety. Be respectful and find a way to involve that person in the wedding if that’s something they would be open to.
There really is no wrong or right way to ask and choose your bridal party, all you want to make sure of is that everyone is happy and settled with the choice to avoid unnecessary drama and extra stress you definitely won’t need leading up to your big day. Remember that these will be memories you’ll have forever and this one day is something you’ll cherish for a long time, so be sure to surround yourself with supportive and loving people who will lift you up along the way.
Keep on planning, your making good progress!